It is not a good idea to be lead by your emotions, and anger, love and lust are strong emotions. There are some things you should not do or say while you are emotional. Love, lust and anger are three emotions that can have long term consequences if you make the right or wrong decision while under the influence.
There are people who are incarcerated right now because they were overcome by anger and ended up committing serious crimes. Sometimes killing or injuring a friend or family member. Anger has caused physical and verbal abuse and has caused many relationships to fail. Lust is defined as an intense desire or need. In 1 John 2:16 it says the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of God, but is of the world. There should never be anything or anyone that you cannot walk away from. If you are going to lust after someone, let me encourage and suggest that you lust after God. Love is wonderful, is of God, and it feels great to be in love. Many times we get love and lust confused. In 1 Corinthians love is described as patient, kind, does not just think about itself and is not envious. Love never fails. Love is a feeling, an emotion; and while you feel love, you are subject to make decisions that could have long term consequences. Love is not just a feeling. You can love someone and not have the emotion or feeling of being in love.
Quitting your job while angry is definitely going to be something you regret once you are not angry anymore, then you will be angry when you are not getting a pay check and cannot take care of your responsibilities.
Confrontation/Discussion, if you wait until you calm down, you might discover some arguments are not worth the time or effort. Ask yourself if you win what do you get? What is the reward for winning? Is it really that serious? Would you rather be married or would you rather be right?
Decision to have children- Once you have children, you have them for the rest of your life. Is that a decision you want to make while you are emotional. Is this a person you want in your life for the rest of your life? Is this Mr/Ms Right or Mr/Ms Right Now?
Decision to get married- Living with a person for a long period of time is not a decision you want to make while emotional. You are combining your living space, money, families, decisions, credit situations, and your life. I do not suggest or advise you make a decision this important while emotional. You would want to be thinking with a clear head. If it does not clear up now, it will clear up during the marriage.
Be intimate without birth control or protection- do not get so caught up in the moment that that you make the decision that this is not important. It can cost you your life.
If you have money, do not get married without a prenuptial agreement.
Our emotions are what make us compassionate, they help protect us and bring us joy. Anger is useful, and there are some things that should make us angry but anger should be controlled because anger can be destructive and people, who get angry quickly, stay angry a long time and whose anger is uncontrolled are fools. It says anger rest, takes a break, is comfortable, and is relaxed in the bosom of fools.
Emotions are not enough to keep a relationship together. The emotion of love is not enough to commit to a relationship or keep a relationship together. When problems arise and they will, you will need more than an emotion to keep your relationship together. Let me suggest and advise that you do not make decisions based on the feeling of love, but when you are thinking clearly. Emotions fade but love never fails.
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