How to Love

Should you love the way that you love or the way a person wants to be loved?
If you attempt to show someone you love them by cooking and they do not care about having home cooked meals, do they feel the love? If flowers are something they only want on their grave, then flowers may not be the way to show your love. They could want more of your time and attention and not just your money. Volunteering to help around the house or in the yard could be a way of showing that you care, especially if they know it goes against the flow for you and you are doing it just for them.

God has instructed us on how to love Him. He said to us if you love me, keep my commandments. God likes us to spend time with him, praise him, worship him and put him first. There is no gray area; we know how God wants us to love him. If you decide there is another way to love God other than doing what is in his word then God is not feeling that devotion. Feeling love is not always important, you can be in love without feeling it. But sometimes we need and want to feel the love.

If a person shares with you what is important to them or over time you figure it out, then my suggestion and advice is to love the person the way they want to be loved. Feel free to show affection the way you show how you care also, maybe they will learn that they enjoy that as well, but that reward could just be for you. If you want them to feel the love, then love them in a way that they can feel, always keeping in mind that it does not go against the word of God.

God knows us better than we know ourselves, He knows, our thoughts before we think them, our words before we say them, he knows the number of hairs we have on our heads, now that is intimate, that is love.